If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands. I lost a Facebook friend today, clap my hands. Maybe two but we’ll have to wait and see. This may seem strange to you. Why would someone be happy to lose a friend? It really isn’t a very long story.
I had decided to resume my blogging with a blog of this title that was going to suggest we look for the positives in situations. I was going to suggest that we can decide to be happy by focusing on things that bring us joy or are joyful to others. As I sat down to write I decided to check the time vacuum that is Facebook. I saw all, I mean all, of my friends who are women posting “Me Too.” I was saddened and then angered as I realized the width and breadth of this issue. Almost everyone of my friends was responding whether they had been harassed or assaulted unacceptable. Come n guys we can do better. We can raise sons that are respectful of all people. We can confront other men when they begin to cross lines or encroach on boundaries. Women aren’t, or shouldn’t be, in this alone. I lost a Facebook friend clap my hands.
I began responding to my friends and stated that I put a sad emoticon but was truly angered that they had endured situations that no one should have to endure. I stand by them and with them and pledge to do my part. My part is to raise my son to be respectful and to confront harassment and offer protection and support to women in those situations. I’m not saying women cannot care for themselves but sexual assault and harassment is about power which makes it akin to bullying. Bullies tend to back away when bystanders show support and solidarity. While I was responding my opportunity to act came up. Would I take action or simply let my words offer worthless hope?
A Facebook friend began ridiculing the “Me Too” idea. I am not going to discuss his viewpoints but I will say they were more than insensitive. I new that I couldn’t simply sit by. Giving him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he was simply unaware I sent him a pm. He responded angrily so I put a comment on his comments. He deleted my comment, unfriended me, and blocked me. I lost a Facebook friend today and I’d do it again in a heartbeat! Clap my hands!
Again we need to all come together to stop the mistreatment of others. So let’s band together men and make the world a better place for women by pledging to not harass, exploit, or assault women (or anyone else). Let us also hold each other accountable to this pledge.
This is this pastor’s opinion, what’s yours?